Sunday, June 7, 2009

What's in a name

So the name thing. Not a whole lot of progress being made. And for those of you just joining us I'll bring you quickly up to speed.

We are expecting our third boy, yup that's right, THREE boys, anywho, the run down of name choices are:
Flyboy- Seamus (pronounce just like it looks) Peirmont

Dash-1 - whatchamacallit or simply The Baby and he occasionally backs his fathers choice just to annoy me

Dash-2- Deigo Lightening McQueen (and that's all one name in his world)

Yeah you can why I'm at a loss around here. I feel sometimes as if I'm the only sane person in this house. I mean, I don't expect much from the little ones but I do expect a little more from flyboy. And I know some of you out there like his name choice. But trust me. It ain't happening, he needs to move on.

So I'm turning to you all. I'm really leaning towards Thomas. I like that name, its a strong, solid name. I also like names that can be shortened or have a more formal ring should he become a President or a Supreme Court Justice. In an unrelated little tidbit it would make ours kids in alphabetical order, R, S, T.

Very much not on purpose but yet it makes me smile cause for a brief moment I feel kinda witty or something.

It's the middle name that is hanging me up. I like Henry. Thomas Henry. Henry has no real significance I just like it. Same goes with Thomas James. No significance just sounds nice.

I also like Thomas Joseph. And here me out on this. I don't particularly like the name Joseph.

My mother is one of 12 kids somewhere after my mother she had a brother, Joseph, who was born with some medical issues, probably no big deal now but in the early 60's not as easily solved. At about six weeks old he passed away from complications of pneumonia and his other issues.

Where the other kids have pictures and pictures in the family scrapbook collection, and trust me with that many kids its a collection, he has two. Two pictures, that's all.

I can't imagine losing a child, let alone an infant. Its hard not to start dreaming of what your child will accomplish and who he will be and become as soon as you find out that you are pregnant. You start to dream and think about how their life will be. And that little boy didn't get to see any of those hopes or dreams into fruition.

He lives on in my grandparents memories and two pictures.

I keep thinking lately, as my grandparents get older and are now both in not the greatest health that he didn't get to leave much of a footprint. If I give my little boy the middle name Joseph then their Joseph goes on another generation.

His footprint last a little longer because my kids will know about him and tell their kids about him, even though there isn't much to tell, there should always be a memory of him living on.

But is that too melodramatic? Should I just go with a great sounding name that I like? Am I thinking too much about it?

I'm probably thinking to much about this. My mother's always telling me I think to hard. Betcha you folks didn't think that was possible with me now did you?

34 comments:

  1. i dont think thats melodramatic AT ALL! its beautiful. Haileys middle name is marie, after my great grandmother. Her name was marie and she passed away years ago from a brain tumor. Kinda a long story that I should do a post about one day...but I yelled at her a few days before she dided and never got to say sorry. She yelled at me for stealing her puffed rice cereal and eating it( which i did not do)About a month after she died, I found a small ziplock of some of her cereal inside my coat pocket............i took that as a sign that she forgave me for yelling at her.........GO WITH Thomas Jospeh...thats got my vote all the way!! :)

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  2. Seamus?! Diego?!? These boys are banned from name choosing.

    I think Thomas Joseph or Thomas James sound great. Both are strong names, and if Joseph has a special significance for you- go for it. I will say Thomas Henry sounds just a bit too historical for me... :)

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  3. I like Thomas James and Thomas Joseph. I like the idea of Joseph living on, but not if you don't like the name. You could always name him Thomas Jefferson :)

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  4. Aww the R,S,T thing is so cute! I always think its cute when parents coordinate their kids names. But I think you should go with what you like. And Thomas Joseph would be very cute!

    And thank you for stopping by my blog also and the advice with living off base. I guess I always figured everyone chose to live on base, so its comforting to know I'm not the only one! :)

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  5. Ugh, I hate it when I feel COMPELLED to put in my 2 cents...Seamus, pronounced like it sounds? No way, it must be pronounced "correctly" - as in "Shay-mus" or he will live a life fielding questions about "Didn't your parents know how to pronounce it?", LOL Take it from me, a strong Irish girl...don't muck that one up! I think you should be the final say-so since you are the mom, simple as that, lol! BTW, I do like both Thomas and Joseph, strong names that will endure the test of time!

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  6. I think your grandfolks would be very touched if you have the name Joseph.. as long as that is what you want, too. I love the name Thomas... it's both my grandfathers' names. If not for my complete teen love of Rob Thomas it would probably be our son's name, but no one who knows me would believe that Thomas was after my grandfathers. It's a name that works for a president or a mechanic. Very balanced.

    Why is the hubby so happy with Seamus?

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  7. I like that Joseph has a reason. I think that gives the kids something to link back to their past. And I like the idea of a deepening the first Joseph's footprint.


    That being said, I like James too. My kick-butt brother is named James...well, Jim and he is as mentioned kick butt awesome. If it has anything to do with the name...then take it!

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  8. Your explanation of Joseph makes me love that choice. Every child should be so fortunate to have such a meaningful name.

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  9. If it makes you feel any better my husband wanted to name our child Leonidas, or another Spartan name. The movie 300 had just come out when we found out I was pregnant. Thankfully or son does NOT have a Spartan name.

    And your explanation for the middle name being Joseph was definitely not melodramatic. I love Thomas Henry or Thomas Joseph. But you will know as soon as you see him, which name is going to ultimately stick.

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  10. I love both Thomas James and Thomas Joseph- even better I like that he could be called TJ! And I think it's a great reason to continue on the name!

    And Seamus- if Flyboy were going to pronounce it Shay-mus it isn't half bad but sea-mus? no way jose.

    Good luck!

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  11. I adore Thomas Joseph. But I'm big into strong, traditional, family/biblical/saint names. I don't really care for the trendy stuff too much :) If it is sentimental, my kids are likely going to be named that. Ha!

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  12. wait Seamus pronounced how it looks?!?!


    Sam loves that name. But we always pronounce it "Shame-us." That's how it's said. Tell flyboy how it's pronounced and then maybe he'll change his mind!!


    :)

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  13. Another vote for using Joseph in some way. I don't think it's too melodramatic. I love names that have meaning, particularly ones that carry the memory of a family member.

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  14. So SWEET! I love the story behind Joseph as a name, and I bet your son will too when he is older. And it is just a good solid name, too. I like Thomas, too. Funny how the hormonal pregnant lady is the only sane person in the house! HA! :D Although, I have to admit I like Seamus as well, but Thomas will keep him from getting his butt kicked in school! :D

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  15. I like the meaning behind joseph. I always pick family names as middle names. My oldest is my grandmothers name and my youngest is hubbys. If we have a boy his first or middle name will probably be james after my grandfather. So if you choice james dont think i'm coping you.

    I think you should go with what you always use to say about using an O name for the middle name

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  16. I really like the name Thomas! I'm not really good with middle names and I do tend to lean towards ones you don't hear all the time:p If I had to pick a middle name, I'd say Thomas Kane, or Thomas Jewel:p See, I told you! But Thomas Jospeh has a nice ring to it!

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  17. I'm a HUGE fan of family names. I'm named after my dad who was named after his dad and right now I'm working on convincing my husband to carry that onto our (as yet unexpected) oldest child. He's really against inherited names so it's an uphill battle. But yeah, it's the story behind it that makes the name special. "Jack" on it's own is pretty unremarkable, but it's survived three generations (so far) in my family, and I'm proud of it.

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  18. I've always had the idea I'd pick middle names to carry some family significance, so I would give a thumbs up to the use of Joseph!

    I kind of love Diego Lightening McQueen.....like for a pet turtle or something.

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  19. I've always had the idea I'd pick middle names to carry some family significance, so I would give a thumbs up to the use of Joseph!

    I kind of love Diego Lightening McQueen.....like for a pet turtle or something.

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  20. My little brother died at age 4 1/2, and my bigger brother named his son after our little brother. It's like the circle of life continued, with a history behind the name. If he hadn't done that, I would have. Thomas Joseph...a name with a family history. Beautiful.

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  21. I like Thomas a lot. He could be Tom and Tommy! And if it was Thomas Joseph (should he rebel and decide he hates the name his mother bestowed upon him, God forbid) he could also be called "T.J."

    I like it! Plus, I mean. Come on. R, S, T? You have to do it. It's practically fate ;)

    If all else fails, I'm gonna have to go with Dash-1 on this one.

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  22. My uncle's name is Thomas Joseph. =)

    I think that would be a nice legacy to leave.

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  23. My vote would be for Joseph; I'm a sucker for stuff like that. And it's not a totally wacky name that he will learn to hate and hide, either, unlike some family-inspired middle names out there.

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  24. No way! Names with meaning are awesome... I would go with it. Tell Flyboy that you took a poll and that we pick Thomas Joseph. :-) Or actually take a poll and show him the results! ha ha... that'll show him! (hopefully!)

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  25. Thomas is a great name! I think it sounds very distinguished.

    Just go with your gut! Sounds like you have great taste.

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  26. hmm..I like Thomas. If there ever comes a day that seems to be the only name Rob and I agree on since it's his middle name.
    I also like Henry. Thats darling.

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  27. I think it's the sweetest most wonderful thing in the whole world! It's making me tear up a bit actually, I'm sure it would mean the world to your grandparents too.

    Besides that, I really like Thomas. Seamus, not so much! (Too many ways you can alter that for name calling on the playground, ha!)

    But in the end, our opinions don't matter. Name your baby what you love! Do you know how many looks we get about Vivienne's name? Doesn't matter though, we loved it and a Vivi she will be :)

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  28. I have a Henry :) I love that name...plus it was my Grandaddy's name :)

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  29. The Joseph idea sounds so sweet! It would mean a lot to everyone in the family.

    Still, I think you should go with something that you feel is right. If it's T. Joseph over the others, then do it. :)

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  30. I think Joseph is a great name, especially the story behind it! It's not melodramatic, just very meaningful!

    I'm not a fan of Seamus. His name should definitely be Thomas Joseph!

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  31. Let me just say quickly, Flyboy is well aware how Seamus is pronounced. It is a strong Irish name. Please forgive my dear wife, she is trying to turn you all against me.

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  32. Thomas Joseph is a really nice name. And I think it's awesome to carry on your mom's brother's name. I must admit though that Thomas James is my favorite and has my vote (that's my pap's name).

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  33. Personally I am voting for Diego Mcqueen :) But Thomas is nice too.

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  34. I vote for Thomas Joseph, hands down. I don't think that's melodramatic at all, and I would think your grandparents would be *so* touched. I know that gesture would mean the world to me.

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