Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Stupid questions

Just so all you non children people don't think your the only ones who get the obnoxious questions prying into your reproductive habits, we procreating folks get them too.

Last week the boys and I ran out to S@m's club to pick up some fruit. Since I am feeding 1 Marine and two little boys we need to buy our produce in bulk but back to the story.

As I was checking out the cashier asked if dash-3 was a boy or girl. He was wearing a blue onesie and had a blue and brown blanket over him but since it's my third kid I'm not really offended anymore. Here's the conversation:

her "Oh how cute! How old?"

me "Ummm, five days, no four days, no no I was right the first time, five days."

her "Adorable, is it a he or a she?"

me, "He's a he."

her "Oh my you have three boys? Are you going to try for a girl?"

I swear you could hear crickets chirping while I just looked at her with a dumbfounded expression.

Umm hello?! Not to be too graphic but I still have stitches healing in a place that one should not have stitches and you want to know if I'm popping anymore out right now? This little one is DAYS old, Christ give me a chance to get to the point when I can go to the bathroom without wincing and I'll get back to you.

See folks, we get it too.


  1. It is very frustrating to me that because our pattern is Girl, Girl, Boy, Girl, Girl, Boy, We only kept going to get the second boy, Not that maybe we wanted 6 kid no matter the gender.

    Some times people need to think before they open their mouths

  2. My grandmother asked me if we were going to try for a boy. *blink. blink* WHAT?

    I've also been "yelled at" because natural family planning is apparently NOT a birth control method someone approved of. Ahem.

    Like it's your business....

    And ooh momma - so sorry about the stitches. I had stem to stern stitching with Oceana, should have had stitching with Joshua - I'm wincing with you!

  3. (smile)....! I get the version that goes "When are you going to have a girl?" to which I now reply "When one of my boys decides to get married"! (I cannot have children without medical intervention, so I am so thankful for the 2 that I have... and these comments no longer bother me other than the stupidity of it!) Of course, they do it in front of my boys which leads to endless questions that they can't yet understand the answers to, lol !! "Yeah, mom...WHEN???!"

  4. That "area" just hurts thinking about it. Always cracks me up...folks asking questions about stuff you have little control over. :)

  5. I get asked how old "he" is and what is "his" name while she decked out in pink all the time. People just don't bother to notice. I have yet to be asked about the next one but I am sure that is coming. That cashier clearly never pushed out a baby because if she had she would know that the last thing you want to think about 5 days out is doing it again.

  6. I'm almost grateful that mine ended up being an emergency c-section. While I couldn't laugh or bend over all that well, at least it didn't hurt when I peed. Ouch.

  7. hahahah, and I thought that I had it bad as a married woman with no children yet (granted it's only been just over a year, but yeah.) ;)

  8. Ugh, I hate it when people ask that. When I tell them I'm thrilled we have all boys and that's really what I had hoped for, I often get a dumbfounded look in return. It's not all about having a girl, people, really.

  9. My mom got the "he or she" question with me all the time, and I wore pink fluffy dresses, earrings, and a big pink bow on my head. No matter what you dress a kid in, some people just don't think before they speak...

  10. Are you having anymore now that you have a boy and a girl?

    How old is HE? while my daughter is holding a doll wearing pink AND has pigtails!

    What do you mean your husband got a vasectomy? (family asks that all the time)

  11. Oh man. Some people seriously don't think.

  12. Oh I would have thrown a kiwi at her stupid head. She heard you were 5 days out of the hospital right? Some people...

  13. I realise the cashiers at that store are probably trying to be friendly but they sure do say the dumbest stuff to you and your family. And, yeah, I get that all the time. Except people assume Isaac is a girl because of the eyelashes even though he's in all blue. It's darn silly.

  14. i had Little A in a cure little pink dres with a bow in her hair that said "It's A Girl" and someone said...."What a cute little boy". I was the only person around. *bangs head on desk*

  15. i HATE those sorts of questions - doesn't it feel like they are asking whether/when you and your husband have sex? ugh!

    that being said - lol the timing of this particular occassion couldn't have been MORE inappropriate! :-p

  16. Some people are so dumb,
    I've been there before!

  17. That is probably the worst question I've ever heard anyone asking someone with a five day old baby! Whether it was your first or fifth, I would NEVER ask someone who just gave birth if any more kids are in the future. It just seems so disrespectful, of course I never ask anyone if kids are in their future, and if anyone asks me that, I tell them our cat is more than enough.

  18. You know how I feel about this. Geesh, so terribly insensitive. Sometimes people just need to keep their mouths shut. :-/

  19. The most annoying question in the world is the: "When are you having kids?" question.
    As if just because I CAN, means I HAVE to. Ummmmm...you can drive a car with your feet but that doesn't make it a good idea folks.

    My new response will be:
    Now that you mention it, RIGHT THIS SECOND!!!!


  20. I get the opposite since I have 2 girls. Even my MIL is still asking if we're sure we don't want to try for a boy. Hello! I'm sure I sent her the memo that he got snipped! That means we are done, people!

  21. I had a few friends here who were married and didnt have kids. they werent ready to have them yet. Well my friends who has kids neighbor called and aske dher why her friend didnt have kids yet. UMM really is it any of your business. Why would you even ask what if she had a medical condition, luckly she didnt and just isnt ready.

    I was in babies r us one time or walmart i cant remmeber anway i saw a baby dressed in yankee stuff. And i said omg he is so cute and the mom was like its a girl. My mistake and i hate when people do it but in my defense it was a blue yankee outfit


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