I'm mildly irritated. Actually this thing that is irritating me isn't so much a new thing, but since I'm feeling nausea today and I was going thru some things and found dash-1's adorable St. Patty's day shirt, I'm irritated all over again. And now I'll share.
This year dash-1 started in the halls of academia. He goes to a nursery program tues/thurs for 2 1/2 hours in the morning. All in all he likes it. He does have a nemesis who he talks about often, but then again, we all need a nemesis, everyone needs their Dwight (from the office folks).
We specifically picked this school because it was peanut free. No peanut products are allowed in the school, said so in the handbook. It made me feel a little safer, I figured then I would only have to worry about the egg front and that if they had a peanut policy then the egg allergy wouldn't seem so much for them.
Yeah. Stupid assumption on my part. Apparently I'm the only parent who read the handbook and caught that whole "This school is a PEANUT FREE school" sentence.
Not only has he brought home peanut candy a couple times from a class party or some one's birthday in the class but now for St. Patricks day they are making Irish Soda Bread, with egg in it. So he'll be missing the day. I mean 14 three and four year olds, raw eggs, and my kid with anaphylaxis shock. Yeah, I don't think he'll be taking part in that one.
And I am irritated.
(By the way the problem with the peanut candy coming home is that you don't always know its there, I now always check his bookbag but the first couple times he would be sitting in the back seat digging thru a goody bag I didn't know existed. And with certain candies like Reese's PB cups, the peanut filling can leak out and get on other stuff and that is NOT a good thing)
The school, I thought, was aware of his severity of allergy. I took in paper after paper from his pediatrician, his allergist, an allergy action plan, his medicines, all of it. I thought anaphylaxis shock on every paper, the epi pens, and the whole should avoid any and all egg and peanut products spoke for itself.
Again, I think I assumed wrong.
I over heard one of the moms ask the teacher if her mom could come in on St. P's day and make Irish Soda bread with the kids. I asked the teachers, and this was WEEKS ago, and explained that if the recipe had egg in it, dash would not be able to be in the class that day, that we can not take the risk of a reaction. She didn't seem to get it.
In fact, I got the distinct impression that she thinks I'm making a huge deal out of this. She keeps saying, "we could keep him on the other side of the room". And shaking her head with that look in her eyes like I'm crazy.
Here's what I've tried to explain, it takes one kid to get one drop of yolk or white on his fingers and touch something that dash-1 will touch. Then if he rubs his face it could get really ugly, really quickly.
I don't understand why they couldn't ask this parent to do a different activity.
Paint a giant shamrock with glitter or something. Do something that all the kids can enjoy. I'm sorry if it seems like I get to dictate the fun because of my child, but I don't really think its fair that he's missing a day of school (and color day on top of that which is a BIG deal to a four year old, hence the cool new shirt I got him) because of an activity that some one's grandma wants to do.
In my mind the school should have said, I'm sorry we have a child in the class who is severely allergic to eggs and we can't have them in the class. It's hardly like I've been a pain in every one's ass this year. I bring in special cupcakes for dash, I bring in food he can eat for party's so that everyone else gets their normal food. Why couldn't they give on this?
Food allergies are so misunderstood. Its not that we think eating egg free stuff is fun, hardly. It's not that I think I should get to set the standard of the class. But I'm trying to make it so that my kid can take part in as much as possible. You know without worry about him dying and all.
By the way, honest opinions are welcome on this.